Hi, my name is Jessica Harris and I used to struggle with pornography and masturbation.
What caused your struggle?
It’s hard to say what caused my struggle. There isn’t a specific “cause” per se. I was exposed to pornography when I was 13 by accident. So, that’s what started it. There are many factors, I think, that played into me having the struggle I did.
How long have you struggled with this issue?
This is a past issue. I was exposed in 1999 and found freedom in 2005/2006, so about 6-7 years.
What led you to your healing journey?
At college, they had an all-women’s meeting where they talked about strongholds. At the end, they said, “We know some of you struggle with pornography and masturbation and we’re here to help.” They encouraged us to share our strongholds with people in leadership. So, I confessed that I struggled with pornography. They set me up with weekly meetings with someone to talk about my struggle. At the same time, they had a team of people who helped me heal from the deeper wounds.
What were the obstacles you encountered in your healing journey?
There was a lot of shame because of my background. I was raised in a very conservative family so we never talked about things like sex. It was hard not having family support and not having anyone when I went home on break from school. At the time, there weren’t many resources for women like me, so that was difficult as well.
How are you doing now?
I am doing so well! It’s been about 12 years since I found freedom and yes, there have been moments of struggle and failure all along the way. But I went from using pornography all day every day to feeling tempted only a couple times a year.
I started a blog sharing my story in 2009 and published my story in a book, Beggar’s Daughter, in 2016. I now get to share my story around the world and help other women know they are not alone.
And, I just got married on September 01 2017.
What would you say to other women struggling with porn and masturbation?
I want them to know that they are not alone and that there is freedom for them. There is hope and they can be free. Not only can they be free, they can know a life that is beyond all they could ever imagine. The most important part though is that they get help. They can’t do this alone.